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What kind of life would you have to live to eliminate all fear or risk? No matter how many insurance policies you purchase, helmets you wear, personas you create, or doors you lock, one of the certain lessons life teaches us is that there is no escaping fear and risk. In this session we’ll be talking about our deepest fear while rapelling a one-hundred-foot cliff. But our fear isn’t heights; the central fear all men share is that we will be exposed as an impostor, a poser, a man who doesn’t really have what it takes.

In this week’s episode, we talk about fear-driven false identities that date all the way back to Adam and Eve. We’ll look at the reasons we hide ourselves, what it accomplishes, and how we construct our fig-leafs. Together, let’s learn how to live a life of honesty and integrity that starts with radical vulnerability.

THIS WEEK’S RESOURCE: Wild At Heart: Band Of Brothers – Session 2: The Poser And The Question


  1. In what circumstances, or in which situations, are you most tempted to pose? Around your friends? Co-workers? Church? Do different social groups know different versions of you?
  2. When you pose, what fig leaf do you wear? The shy one? The confident one? The clown?
  3. What is the value of each mask? How does it work? What wound does it protect?
  4. What are you most afraid of when you consider the pose being undone? When you think about being ‘exposed?’
  5. If you asked your closest friends and family, “How do I pose?”, what do you think they would say? What are you afraid they would say?